The other day, I discovered the Bladder Cancer Web Cafe. It's an open forum where people discuss their bladder cancer -- their treatment options and experiences -- their doctors' attitudes, etc. But most of all it's a place for support, encouragement and hope.
The members really helped me prepare for my father's appointment with his urologist. It's always a good idea to be armed with as much knowledge as possible.
As it turned out, we didn't have the "battle" with the doctor as I had expected. We quietly mentioned that my Dad did not want to have the BCG treatments again. That, at 83, he didn't want to spend the next three years of his life feeling terrible all of the time. And at the end of the three-year treatment plan? What is there on the other side? Realistically, the next three years may be the rest of his life. He'd much rather feel good most of the time and still try to enjoy what life he has.